Our First Christmas Without You

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 This Christmas, it feels quieter; softer somehow still,

An empty chair, a missing laugh, a space no joy can fill.

The lights are up, the tree still glows, the carols drift and play,

But part of us is holding our breath and learning how to stay.


Your hands once wrapped the season up in warmth and gentle cheer,

With stories told and love poured out, every single year.

Now memories hang like ornaments: fragile, bright, and true,

Each one a thread of Christmas love that leads us back to you.


We feel you in traditions; in every shared refrain,

In recipes and rituals that soften grief and pain.

Though this is our first Christmas, walking without you near,

We carry you inside our hearts, in every quietly shed tear.


So tonight we’ll light a candle and let its silent glow remind,

That love outlives the hard goodbyes we have to leave behind.

Merry Christmas, Grandma—your light still shows the way,

Not gone from us, just held in love, this Christmas and always.


©️ Wonderland Wanderess 2025

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